One of the things that prevent many from making a singles serious relationship and deep with my mate, is the fact that they are “prisoners” distorted patterns of thinking something regarding love, relationships, marriage , etc.. I mean especially to all those myths, modern Western society, backed by media burned in our minds over the years, which considerably distorted by the piece of our world.
When the distorted world view in terms of love – relationships – marriage , and has no basis in reality, it is easy to understand why things do not work. Let’s go together on some of those myths encountered during my years as a matchmaker , accompanying many of us examine them one by one.
Click – Chemistry – love at first sight
“Andelknu one another.” “There was chemistry between us has been the beginning.” “We had a click – that’s it. It was love at first sight. “And other such settings can be heard from them of millions of young couples in Israel and abroad, when they recover, her eyes shining, the initial stage of their acquaintance.
Years on the media fed us the wonderful wonders it “love at first sight.” Books, television and film series, added more inflated the same “click” first created between the couple.
No wonder the – yes, a large majority, that “captured” the myth of the click – Chemistry – love at first sight, really believe that is the essence of her true love, we wish her great all our lives. From here you can also understand the disappointment and frustration that accompany us whenever we go out on a date with someone, and nothing of what myth “promised” not happening.
I have news for you: Click – Chemistry – drifting – delirious – love at first sight – all these and more – although they are things that happen in real life, but they do not have (almost) nothing to do with love. Certainly not with the essence of love.
There is no such animal called “Love the moment.” There is no such thing as falling in love with someone you do not know. It’s unrealistic dream, an illusion. Distorted myth origins, was burned in our minds for thousands of years, but between him and true love has nothing to do.
Click – Chemistry – love at first sight is certainly a wonderful feeling, but can not be mistaken – this is what is called a total of – falling in love. “Electricity” went on between you and a girl or a spouse can lead to an intoxicating adventure no doubt, but not necessarily stable and genuine relationship – let alone true love.
Apparently, as studies prove, the intensity of emotion Msatltat the body while falling in love, is caused by molecules NGF, or in a “nerve growth factor.” A recent study in Italy, is the increase in the level of NGF in the bodies of 58 fresh love, from a group consisting of singles and people involved in the jury long-term relationships. Needless to say, based on evidence and research, the NGF level in the body back to acceptable levels after a year.
In a Click – Chemistry – love at first sight, people tend to get confused and interpret the distorted their emotional situation. Ecstasy elated that surround them – in most cases, the result generated sexual relationship – they create the illusion of love. Love? Absolutely not. This fall in love, perhaps at or partner, but mainly fascinating situation – created intoxicating.
I hold the opinion that people who fall at first sight, do that, usually, out of desperation. They jump with great enthusiasm into the relationships created by dating uncertainty, created out of a deep anxiety about the future. They want to “swallow the world” here and now, because deep in their heart of hearts they really are deterred from investing the kind of effort required to meet their spouses new.
Late mother would say that “cooking fast, burned quickly.” Although cooking is referred to, but it can also adopt when speaking of love. When you begin a relationship into high gear, hormones working overtime, refined D – Nur flying everywhere, can be see the “fire” around the corner.
Simple explanation – exhilaration exhilaration, feelings that characterize the Christian connections at first sight, they of course are not natural conditions. Beyond that they are sabotaging any possibility of reasoned and rational thinking, they also prevent (almost) any attempt to get to know your spouse.
Life as in nature – after all also comes down a hill. After that period, sometimes short, sometimes even more short, we return Lmzvino natural emotional. Tories down, hormones relax, Fireworks D – Nur fade, and ecstasy ends.
Then we discover, the knight of our dreams, that swept him power so great, is a superficial, beyond the attractive exterior, he has nothing to offer. And then we find that suddenly, The Princess Bride, this electric currents which sent us, is indeed a young, handsome, open, very loving life, but we do not really mind to nothing in common.
Might be surprised to know, but based on my many years of experience in the field of matchmaking dating, I can testify that most loves truth forged, led to serious and significant relationships – sometimes even married – were not at first sight, not even in “Mel” or ” Chemistry. ”
Love, I believe, will weave her slowly, gently, while examining all possible aspects. Love, I believe, can be built out of discretion, sensitivity, cooperation, mutual openness, with a lot of goodwill, but also with great care.
There will be no misunderstandings, I definitely think that the weight of the initial enthusiasm for physical attraction, but we must not mistake them. They are without doubt an important element in contact centers, provided that same time, the couple built a relationship of human and emotionally true, such that each partner gets to know the other’s inner personality.